Saturday, December 21, 2013

It is 4 days until Christmas!

Nannies, what have you gotten as a holiday bonus?

Monday, December 16, 2013

Hi, my lovelies!  I have had such a rough week.  Sick kids, sick parents, and sick me!  Thank you, family!

How are you?





Saturday, December 7, 2013

Sitter Stories

This email comes from a once-upon-a-time Babysitter named Jamie:

"I'm no longer a Babysitter but here's a story from when I was.  I was Babysitting for a family in the city who were pretty well off.  Nice apartment, nice cars, nice clothes.  The first time I Babysat for them, the Mom said to me "we don't have much in the house, but feel free to eat what you find for dinner."  I looked in the cabinets and there was n-o-t-h-i-n-g to eat.  I came after the kids ate so I'm not sure what they ate for dinner.  I couldn't afford to order in so I just waited hours until they came home so that I could go home to eat.  They never left money for me to get anything but it would have been nice to be surprised with that once in awhile."

Jamie, I feel your pain and have been in your situation.  It's nice to get $10 to order in dinner while you watch their kids.  The Mom didn't have to say what she said because that was a kick in the gut.  Parents, treat your Sitter right.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Sitter Stories

Ok, whew.  This one comes from an Anonymous Sitter.  I was laughing hysterically!

"I have been Babysitting for one family for over 7 years now in Hoboken.  The Parents are divorced.  The Mom is a little less involved than the Dad, but still has her days with the kids.  One time when I was there, the Mom went out for the night with her new boytoy.  The kids ran into her room/bathroom to brush their teeth.  As I walked in to help the younger one, I noticed that all over the floor were sex toys and condoms.  I was so disgusted!  I wanted to ask why the Mom kept these things out where her kids could see them but I didn't."

Anonymous Sitter, I love this.  You are a trooper! 
Sitter Stories

This email comes from a Hoboken Babysitter named Melanie.  

"It really bothers me when a Parent tells me what time they are coming home. A lot of times they say they will be home at X and then come home an hour or two earlier.  Then, the Parents don't pay me for the original said time.  I rely on any money that I make for bills.  Don't you think that Parents either shouldn't say a return time or if they do, they need to pay until that time?"

Melanie, Yes.  Yes, they should be paying until the time they said they would return.  I always find it disgusting when Parents do things like this.  Come on, Parents, don't you want to keep your caregiver happy?  What's an extra $30-$40 to you?  But, Melanie, do you say anything about it?  If you do, you probably don't hear back from them.  If you don't, then you probably do Babysit a lot for them and it continues to occur.  It's one of those problems that us Nannies/Babysitters face.  I just think that the Parents need to pay and everyone will be happy.  
Sitter Stories 

If you're following me on Facebook, which you should be: Hoboken Nanny, I told you that I  am going to do a series of stories that just babysitter's have emailed me about. Some are hilarious and some are just downright sad that they have to work with these people.  C'est la vie!

Let's start with this one.  From a Sitter named Rachel.  

"I have a full time job in the city.  I like to babysit on the side, not just for the extra cash but because who doesn't like hanging with a cute baby or kid from time to time?  My hours at work are 9-5.  I get back to Hoboken and often go to meet families for a potential date night or whatever.  I'm in my early 30s and have been babysitting for 15 years.  I've got the experience.  I want to know why when I give people my rate($18 for one kid), I never hear back from them?  Can you help me with this one?"

Rachel, here's my answer: people are cheap as F%#@.  I once read this quote "If you want an average Babysitter/Nanny, you pay for an average Babysitter/Nanny.  If you want an amazing Babysitter/Nanny with experience, you pay for an amazing Babysitter/Nanny with experience. My advice is to just keep truckin.  I loved when I used to interview and I would go to these million dollar brownstones and lofts and the Parents wouldn't budge on the hourly rate that they wanted to spend on a caregiver.  With your experience, you are worth the $18 an hour.  If the families you meet don't want to spend that, then find a family who will.  They are out there.  Some Babysitters price themselves low, not because they don't have experience, but because they want a steady family who can rely on them.  That's fine too.  Think about it like this: would you rather make $18 an hour one time, or maybe $15-$16 with a family who loves you?  But you could also find a family who relies on you and you can make $18 all the time!  It just depends on how much a family is willing to not be a cheap bastard.  

Wednesday, December 4, 2013


I was walking on Hudson Street past a daycare on 4th Street last Wednesday.  I saw a Dad taking one kid into the daycare.  The other kid was sitting in a stroller.  While the Dad went in the daycare to take the one child, he left the other stroller child outside.  Last Wednesday was pretty damn cold.  I stood there watching what the lousy Dad was doing.  He didn't just drop the kid off.  He went INSIDE to the room area.  Can you believe that?  The kid wasn't wearing a hat, just a jacket, and was left outside by himself in the stroller!  

Look, I know you feel safe in this town, but Jesus.  How about you take your kid inside with you?  Not good, Dad.  I didn't get a name but Dad, fess up and tell your wife because I guarantee you didn't tell her you did that!



I love Christmas.  Not just because of the holiday season feeling and the happiness(for the most part) that people have.  But also because I love the imagination part of Christmas.  I love telling my charges about Santa and seeing the pure excitement about him.  I also love telling them that Santa will not bring toys if they are bad.  Well, maybe, I only tell that to the older boy.  
But really, Parents and Nannies, you should be using that "Santa is watching" reason for the entire year.  I wonder how much more well behaved kids would be if Santa was watching them all year???  

I'm going to try it this year. 

Also, a tip for you Nannies and Stay-at-home-Parents:
The Elf on the Shelf goes to the North Pole to report to Santa at nap time.  You'll thank me for this tip!
Thanksgiving Wednesday
(get the picture?  Haha!)

 I worked my usual hours last Wednesday.  And of course, the Dad was home all day and the Mom got home early.  They are usually good about letting me leave when they are home, but for some reason, I had to stay until my regular time to leave.  That annoyed the hell out of me.  Why?  Because the brats got brattier, the Parents sit there and watch TV while I slave around, and why should I have to be there anyway? Can someone tell me?  

Anyway, the Mom wanted to let me leave early but the Dad said "Why should we let her leave?  She's a full time Nanny."  Ummm what's up your ass today, Dad?  And by the way, yes, he said that right in front of me.  I was appalled.  I think the Dad was pissed because he had to take care of his brats for the rest of the week while they were out of town.  Actually, I am confident that is why he was pissed.  He didn't work all day, he literally did nothing but make my life crazy while being home.  

Anyway, what an A-hole. 

 What do you think of his comments?

Comment below!


Tuesday, December 3, 2013

I'm Sorry!

I have lacked in my posts but have so much to tell you. 

How was your Thanksgiving? I will tell you all about mine later today.

If you celebrate Hanukkah, did you get anything good? Email me at and let me know!

Did you get a Thanksgiving bonus??

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Tuesday, November 26, 2013



Saturday, November 23, 2013

The Nanny/Mom Stare

I love walking around Hoboken.  That being said, I don't care for the stares that I get from Moms when they realize that I'm the Nanny.  It's kind of like "Look at me!  I'm a Mom!"  Whereas I'm like, "Good God.  How corny are you?"  It's really a Hoboken thing I think.  It reminds me of a game where who is doing things better.  

Not a competition, people.  

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Friday, November 22, 2013


How was your week?  I took a few days off from work for a much needed break while the Parents were off as well.  
New topics coming up!



Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Emailed Confessions of a Nanny
 Part X

This is a great topic because I am happy to see that other Nannies experience this.  This email is from a Hoboken Nanny named Simmy. 

"Most days when I get to work, on the kitchen table are personal documents.  Bank statements, bills, blood work results, the list goes on.  I don't know why the Parents feel the need to lay these out in the open.  I wonder if they think that I don't look.  I guess they don't care that I see how much money is in their bank account or their tax forms for the year at tax time with their salary on it.  I'm happy with it because now I know how much I can ask for when my raise comes around.  But it's none of my business, Parents, to know that you have an STD and that your bank account has $1,000 in it.  But thanks for letting me know."


Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Why Family Members Suck

 Sometimes I have to deal with family members who come and visit the family that I Nanny.  Whether it's Aunt's and Uncle's or Grandparents, I don't really care to deal with them because then I feel like I become a slave instead of a Nanny.  Picking up coffee cups and glasses left on the table.  It's really not my job.  Why else do I find them annoying?  Because I hear things like "Oh yeah, she(the Mom) will be potty training X soon."  

Did you just say that the "Mom" will be potty training her kid?  In reality, did you mean that me, the "Nanny" will be potty training her kid?  Because that's what I thought you said.  

Do family members really think that the Parents raise their kids?  
Let's take a look.  

Parents have a Nanny(me) because they chose to have a Nanny while they work 50+ hours a week.  So, by the time the Parents get home, they put the kids to bed.  I feed them dinner, I give them a bath, I get them ready for bed.   

Tell me how are the Parents raising their kids?  

It's about time that Parents fess up and say who really does the potty training.  Because it sure as hell isn't them!

Monday, November 18, 2013

Christmas Day

I got an email from a Hoboken Nanny named Erica.  Here's her email:

"I have already taken all of my vacation for the year and to make up for it the family wants me to work on christmas.  Its a legal holiday and I celebrate christmas so I should have it off.  What do I do?"

Well, Erica, simply tell them you are not working.  If they also celebrate Christmas then there is no reason to have you work.  If they don't celebrate Christmas then you tell them that you do celebrate and have plans with family.  You need to tell them that it's a legal holiday that you would get off regardless of using your holiday time.  Case closed.

And Parents, wtf are you thinking asking your Nanny to work on a legal holiday?  You want her to work, then guess what?  Holiday pay kicks in.  Regardless if you celebrate Christmas.  It's a holiday.  You pay holiday rates for Christmas, New Year's Eve, and New Year's Day.  It's one thing to work on Kwanzaa or Hanukkah since those holiday's last for days.  It's another to work on Jesus' Birthday.  



Friday, November 15, 2013

Pee Girl at Madison Park

I'm not sure what made me think of this but I have to tell you.  Over the Summer, I take my charges to Madison Park to play in the water.  And while I was applying sunscreen to the kids, I looked over and not 3 feet away from me was a little girl.  This girl had to be at least 6 years old.  She was nude from the waist down and she was just standing there peeing.  No, I'm not kidding.  Next to her was either her Grandma or Nanny.  I could not hold back my disgust for what was going on.  So, for the first time ever, I yelled at not only the girl, but the old hag watching her.  I was not nice because there is a Port-o-potty there for a reason.  

I get that every child in that park in the summer most likely pees in the water area.  That's fine because it goes down the drains(hopefully).  But what's not okay is when a kid, this girl, decided to pee near the fence.  But it wasn't even in the dirt area near the fence.  It was on the sponge part where people lay their things.  I felt bad for the people next to her because they only had towels on the ground.  

How f'ing sick is that?
My Mouth Dropped Wide Open

I was at Church Square Park earlier.  This other Nanny and I were talking and she asked me what to do about negotiating pay for a new child.  Before giving my advice, I asked her what she wanted to do. She told me that she's going to ask for double.  I asked her to say it again.  She said double.  I said "as in double per hour?  So, say you make $15, you're going to ask for $30 per hour?"  She said yes.  And my mouth dropped.  I told her good luck and I moved on.  

While, yes, Nannies should be making that amount.  Honey girl, no one will ever pay you $30 per hour here.  This is not NYC.  This is Hoboken.  While we were 1 mile away from NYC.  This is Hoboken.  

Does ANYONE, I mean ANYONE that is a child Caregiver make more than $25 per hour in this town?  

If you do, I want to hear from you.  

Comment below or email me at




The Dogwalker

Man's best friend.  Your pup and it's dogwalker.  The person comes everyday and walks your number 1.5 in your life.  Or maybe the pup is your number 1 and your kids are 1.5.  Anyway.  Your dogwalker is also your employee.  You can't forget about the person who makes sure your dog doesn't pee or poop all over your floor or mink coat, or Tory Burch shoes while you're at work.  

So.  What to give?  

A dogwalker's holiday bonus is one week's pay. 

If there are a couple of different people who walk your dog, then split it, $50 a person.  But that all depends on how often each person is there.  

Don't forget to thank him or her in a card as well.  The card doesn't have to be as mushy as your card to your Nanny or Sitter because afterall, you probably never see your dogwalker.  But they are still a part of your puppy's life.

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

2013 Bonus Series

The Babysitter: Often or Occasional

Many families in Hoboken have a Babysitter.  Whether it is for after the Nanny leaves for the day or for a family with a child in daycare or school, and even when a stay-at-home Parent needs time away from the kid. Most Parents wouldn't be able to do anything without their Sitter.  So, they should not be forgotten at holiday time.  You may see your Babysitter once or a few times a week.  You may see your Sitter a few times a month, but that doesn't mean you can forget the holiday gift.  Does your Sitter love your kids? Is he/she reliable? Then, yes, you need to give a gift.

First, write a card. The same type of card as you would a Nanny(see below.) 

Second, the monetary amount should be, in my opinion, at least $100. Feel free to give more if you really love your Sitter.  What the Today Show said in my notes from 2009 was "at least one night's pay." But do NOT think it is acceptable to go out the night you give a gift and it be a cheap night. Say if you go out for 2 hours.  No.  That's like a slap in the face.  If you appreciate your Sitter(s) then show it.  If you have multiple sitters, well, you should give everyone a nice tip.

And third, give a gift card to their favorite coffee shop/somewhere else they would enjoy. We have 3 Starbucks and 3 Dunkin Donuts in town.  Surely the Sitters would love a gift card to get a cup of coffee so they can stay awake to watch your brats. 
2013 Bonus Series

The Nanny/Manny

Here's the person who looks after your kid(s) day in and day out.  The one person whom you have trusted enough to raise your little ones. It's almost holiday time and you want to know how to show your Nanny how much you appreciate her, right? Here are a few tips to ensure that your Nanny will feel appreciated and can guarantee she stays with you until you fire her!

First, you should get a nice card and write how much you appreciate her.  I've gotten a few cards that have made me cry because they were so sweet. You should make your Nanny cry like that.  She will love it.

Second, within the card, put some monetary value.  A Nanny should receive AT LEAST one week of pay as a bonus.  Should you feel inclined, you can give more than one week.  One family once gave me over $1,000 as a bonus and they were by no means wealthy.  They were appreciative.  In return, I was very very grateful.  Remember: this is a suggestion.  You can do what you want, but I recommend taking my advice.

Third, also include a gift. This is usually given "from the child" even though the 
kid didn't pick it out.  A gift can include: a spa gift card, a gift card to a store, an iPad, a designer purse, a piece of nice jewelry.  Anything of value.  I'd like a David Yurman bracelet.  Hint hint. But that kind of stuff is suggested.

Your love for your Nanny during the Holiday Season proves what type of people you are and your kindness.  Nannying is no easy job (and I'm sure your job isn't easy either) but Nannies raise the Number One part of your life.  




Monday, November 11, 2013

Seen on Washington

The boys and I were walking on Washington, going home from a class.  And right before my eyes I saw a little boy(not who I watch) jet out right into the street.  I almost choked at the sight of it and I put the brake on the stroller and ran after him.  Wouldn't you know, his lazy ass Nanny BARELY ran after him.  I didn't catch the little boy's name or the Nanny's name, but I wish the cops were around.  The Nanny had the balls to yell at the boy for running into the street.  No, Nanny, how about I yell at you(which I did) for not holding the boy's hand.  Damn, I hate irresponsible Nannies.  

The little boy was safe and the Nanny got her ass screamed at by me.  It was not a pretty sight.  Deep down I hope the Parents never find out about this because they would be so upset.  But they have every right to know that their Nanny sucks ass.



Let me talk about who should receive a bonus.  I came across some papers that I have kept since 2009.  I remember I was watching the Today Show and Matty was talking to God knows who about Holiday Season bonuses and who gets what.  I wrote it down because my friend received nothing in holiday bonuses that year.  I showed her the scribble.  I can't get over how much of a hoarder I am for keeping these papers.  

Anyhoo, here's the list of people you should show your appreciation towards:

1) Nannies and Sitters
2) Housekeepers
3) Dog walkers
4) Landscapers but this rarely applies to anyone in Hoboken
5) Mailmen/women if you know who yours is

So keep this in mind for Hannukah, if any of these people in your life are Jewish.  And if not, Christmas is just around the corner!  

Tomorrow, I will write up how much moolah to give each person.  


Sunday, November 10, 2013


My Perspective

Through the years as a Nanny and Babysitter, I have received monetary gifts, along with a present which included a day at the spa, a designer purse, things that I mentioned in passing that I liked, wine, just to name a few.  I've had a family give me nothing.  And when you give nothing, the long term commitment of your Nanny or Babysitter may soon disappear.  So, I don't advise you give nothing.  (Believe me.  When you work your butt off to make sure the family and children are happy and well taken care of, it's a slap in the face to not receive anything.)  Parents would be surprised at how much the bonus impacts the long term success of your Babysitter or Nanny continuing to work with you.   It's huge...and I'm not just saying that.  

First things first, you should always give your Nanny or Babysitter a monetary bonus.  (I will get into how much per each category.) This part of the bonus shows how much you appreciate her/him.  Do they clean up your dirty dishes in the sink?  Do they go above and beyond to make your life easier?  Does your Babysitter do things that weren't "in the job description."  So, now is the time to show them how much you love your Nanny/Sitter and appreciate all they do.  

Typically, most families take a vacation during Christmas time.  Come January 2nd when everyone is back at work, it's up to you, the Parents, to determine whether your Nanny/Sitter will be happy for 2014.  
Ok, I still can't get through my head what happened yesterday.  I was walking up Washington.  Naturally, lots of tantrums because Parents don't know how to handle their kids.  One kid in particular didn't want to wear his coat.  He was in tears.  While normally I would say "who cares," this time I wouldn't.  But then if you don't make your kid wear his coat, then when it's 20 degrees, he'll pull the same crap.  So, sorry kid, Hoboken Nanny says you wear the coat.  

But that wasn't the bad part.  

Get ready for this one...

There was a family of 4.  One kid who was about 5 years old, another was about 1 in a stroller.  While the Parents were looking at a menu in the window of a restaurant, they were paying no attention to the 1 year old.  So what happened you ask?  The 1 year old decided to lean out of the stroller and I kid you not, FELL OUT RIGHT ON HIS HEAD.   Like are you f'ing kidding me?  I ran right over to help, but he was "fine."  So on my way I went.  But seriously, Parents!!!  What is wrong with you!  You always keep an eye on your kid in a stroller!!!

But this brings up some thoughts in my head.  If a Nanny were with the kid at the time of that happening, the Nanny would be arrested for negligence.  But somehow, when a Parent fails, it's written off as "it's their kid, they can do what they want."  No...those Parents failed to watch the safety of their children.  THEY should be arrested.  

What do you think of this?  

Email me at or comment below!


Saturday, November 9, 2013

If Parents have a negative view on having a Nanny...what about this article?

Daycares have negative outcomes, too.

Email: This Poor Boy

I got an email from a Manny!  He lives and works in Hoboken.  His name is Eric.  Meet Eric.

Here's his question:

"Hoboken Nanny, I am a part time Manny to an awesome little dude.  He is 6.  I pick him up from school and hang out with him until about 7pm everyday.  His Parents wanted a Manny because the dad works long hours and is rarely around.  I love this kid.  I get really sad for him when he talks about the things he wants to do with his dad and I know that it won't happen.  I know it's not my business to talk to the dad but I can't help but feel pure sadness.  How can I get rid of these feelings?"

Eric, this is one of the worst situations.  My advice is to just be there for him.  Listen to what he wants to do with his Dad.  If he doesn't get to do these things with him then you can try and do them with him.  If it involves going somewhere and you're unable to go to that place, then just remember that it's out of your hands.  Try to make everyday together a fun day.  You are his father figure, but not his dad.  If his dad can't make time for him then try to fulfill those expectations.  They chose you for a reason!

Friday, November 8, 2013

Tonight was a good night

I had a delicious dinner at Charritos tonight. That place gets better and better.  Just an FYI. 


I have succumb to you people and your request of me making a Facebook page.

Find me and "Like" me: 

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I will figure out how to manage it because I'm one of those people who never wanted to join this dumb, intrusive website. 

Cheers to my followers! I heart you!

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Daylight Saving Drama

I want to know how everyone has done this week with the adjustment of daylight savings.  The kids hopefully got an extra hour of sleep, but their bodies still think it's one hour later.  There were some meltdowns due to tiredness but that's totally normal.  Anyone else?  

Confessions of a Nanny

I'm bringing up the Micro Manage Mama again.  This woman bothered me and the more I think about her, the more it makes me remember how awful she was.  

Anyway, so one day, she got home from work early.  She said hi to the kids and then disappeared. (Nope, didn't say hi to me) Now remember, these are the kids who just sucked at life and were the brattiest brats ever.  They told me to go home(yes, the brats told me) but then I continued to sit there since we were playing a game.  Like I was going to listen to them, but I wish I would have.  So, the MMM disappeared and the kids were like WTF.  So, they barged into her room.  What was she doing?  She was watching TV in bed.  Uhhhh, W-T-F WOMAN?  Here I am playing a board game with your brats and you are laying in bed watching TV?????  

So, the kids got in bed with her.  I sat on the couch from 3:30pm-5:30 and did nothing, while the 3 of them slept.  Then at 5:30, the dumb Mom came out and asked if I started dinner.  Obviously I didn't because why would I when everyone was sleeping?  Idiot.  So, at 6:15, the kids got out of bed, and the dinner I made was ready.   Yes, I made dinner while the Mom was home and doing nothing.  Ugh, she sucked so much ass.  

Why did I sit there, all alone for two hours?  Because I'm a loyal and reliable Nanny and since it wasn't my time to leave, I sat there and waited.  

Lazy ass MMM made me so mad that day that two weeks later I gave my two weeks notice.  That's what ya get!

Emailed Topic: Nannying Around Parents

I received this great topic from someone who signed the email as "Nanny in Hoboken."  (I'm totally fine with not signing your given name, by the way.)

Let's talk about this.  Nannying with Parents around can be explained like this: when working in corporate world, it's very uncomfortable having your boss around, right?  So, Nannying with your boss around is no exception.  It's kind of like, we do things one way, and the Parents do things another way, so when everyone is around, the kid becomes a doofus.  Kids don't know who to ask so they can get the outcome they want, and it's a Disaster with a capital D.  As I've said before, kids are different people around different adults.    

My belief is that if Parents are going to be around with Nanny, they either need to completely take care of the kids or they need to be invisible.  Meaning, go in your room and don't come out or go somewhere for the day.  The worst thing to deal with is a crying, whining child whose Mom or Dad keep walking in and out of the room.  It's like a big tease for the kids.  

This topic also brings me to the Stay at Home Mom who has a Nanny or a Sitter to watch the kid(s) while Mom does house chores.  No, it can't work like that.  Especially on a rainy day like today.  If the child doesn't understand that Mom will be around, it makes it very difficult for the Caregiver to be able to have fun with the child.  

A child doesn't want the Nanny, they want the Parent.  Remember that!

Wednesday, November 6, 2013


We were in Church Square Park this morning, as usual, and I saw this woman with brown curly hair and her son.  He was playing in the area close to 4th Street.  He was getting bored, so the Mom opened the gate and out ran the boy.  He was probably 4 years old, but a very tall 4 year old.  So without warning, the Mom ran after him and put him in his stroller.  

Sidenote: why does a 4 year old still sit in a stroller?  How lazy can you make a kid?  As soon as the kid is capable of walking without stopping and getting tired, ditch the stroller.  

Anyway, of course, the kid started to cry.  Does anyone know why he started to cry?  Because the Mom decided to discipline him for something that he didn't know he did wrong. 

Here's how the situation should have gone down:  The Mom notices the kid is bored.  The Mom should say "Honey, would you like to go to another area?"  The kid says "yes" and the Mom says "Ok, but you need to hold my hand as we walk to another area and if you don't listen, we are going home."

Is it that difficult?  

Sometimes I see both Parents and Nannies discipline a child for something that they don't know his wrong.  Explain the situation and give a consequence.  Not difficult, people.  Why would you want to deal with crying in the middle of Church Square when all you had to do was communicate.  Dummies!
Emailed Question: The Evil Mom

I got this Email from Mary who lives in Jersey City but is a Nanny here in Hoboken.

"Hi Hoboken Nanny.  I am contemplating whether I should quit my job.  I really love the kids.  But the mom is unbearable to work with.  She never takes my side if the kids say negative things about me.  When she's around the kids will tell me to go home and that they don't like me.  I can handle it, but shouldn't the mom discourage the behavior?  I am always very vocal about this, even with the mom around.   I have been with them since they were babies but now that they are talking, I am not getting backed up with encouraging positive behavior.  What should I do?"

Mary, here's what needs to happen: you need to tell the kids that it's unacceptable to say that someone.  Ask them how they would feel if someone said it to them and then talk about it.  But, you're right.  The Mom should be on your side.  She should discourage the behavior...that's her job as a Parent.  If she doesn't know that it annoys you, then pull her aside and tell her that you've talked about it with the kids and now it's her turn to be on your side.  It's pure evil if she isn't on your side because deep down, maybe she likes hearing her kids say those things.  But as part of the family (because that's what you are as the Nanny) everyone is on the same side.  

Bonus Update

I just realized that Hannukah is in 3 weeks.  I believe it starts on Thanksgiving Day.  Maybe the night before?  I'm not sure how Jewish holiday's work.  (Can someone tell me?) 


This means, if your Nanny, Babysitter, Cleaning person, Dog walker, Teacher, or anyone who HELPS you, celebrates Hannukah, then their holiday bonus should be given then.  Afterall, why should someone whose holiday is earlier than Christmas wait until Christmas?  

I will post NEXT WEEK what Parents should be doing for these wonderful people in your life and what Nannies/Babysitters, Cleaners, Dog walkers should be doing for their bosses.  

Sunday, November 3, 2013

Housekeeper Nanny

I'm just curious, but why do Parents want a Nanny who also does house work?  I'm not one of those Nannies, however, when I look at job postings on various Sitter sites, I notice that almost every posting is for a Nanny or Sitter who also will do "housekeeping."  

Here's what I do in terms of cleaning: cleaning up after meals and snacks, if there's a mess made by the kids I'll vacuum, kids laundry, and occasionally, I'll unload the dishwasher.  I don't enjoy unloading it, but I'll do it once in awhile to help the Parents.  

But what annoys me is this one posting in Hoboken where the family needs school drop off and then have the person go back to their apartment to clean.  WHAT IS THAT?  Nannies are not slaves and anyone stupid enough to agree to that job is dumb.  It's one thing to clean up after the kids as a Nanny, but get a housekeeper if you need cleaning.

Saturday, November 2, 2013

Halloween Sightings

I really had a wonderful time with my charges on Halloween.  They were so adorable in their costumes.  I took them to the parade and we did some trick-or-treating on Washington before the Parents came to meet us and they continued through the evening.  Washington was full of adorable ghouls and really couldn't have been anymore crowded.  Nonetheless, it was Halloween!  

Let me go over things I saw:

-Lots of Nannies taking their charges trick-or-treating

-Lots of Nannies being slaves and pushing strollers while Parents take the kids trick-or-treating.  Really, Parents?  Let your Nanny leave early. 

-Parents unable to handle their children

-The parade sucked.  Seriously.  Two floats?  Lame.

-Awful candy given out on Washington.  Cheapskate stores.  

The Importance of Having the Same Nanny/Babysitter

It is very important that Parents understand that children love consistency.  Having the same Nanny for as long as you can is very important for a child's development.  It's great when a child can easily say bye in the morning when Parents leave.  Some people may think that if they have a different Nanny every year or multiple Sitters, it will help their child gain independence.  However, having different people come into your children's lives isn't healthy.  It doesn't let them develop a healthy attachment.  

So, here's some good advice on helping maintain a Nanny or Babysitter.  

1) Sometimes a Nanny or Sitter may quit because of lack of respect.  Be respectful to them.  It's not about how the kids treat the Nanny/Sitter, it's about 98% how the Parents treat her.  Parents say "thank you" and overall, ask how the Nanny/Sitter is.  Be interested in her life.  

2)  Treat the Nanny/Sitter well.  Meaning, respect.  If your kids say rude things, back up the Nanny, not your kids.  For example, if your child becomes a devil when a Parent is around and say things like "I don't like her" to your Sitter, it is the Parents obligation to knock it off.  When Parents don't show respect to the Nanny/Sitter, the kids won't. 

3)  Stop being cheap.  You get what you pay for.  Want a fantastic, reliable Caregiver?  Pay like you want one.  

4) Don't micro manage.  No one likes that person.  

5)  Your Nanny/Sitter's word should always be the right word.  Believe her.  You hired her because you trust her.  
Pooping Your Pants

A long long time ago, I Nannied for a family with two awful brats.  I'm not just calling them brats to be funny.  They were truly awful brats.  They were the worst when the Parents were around and just completely disrespectful.  

One day, we were on a playdate and the 5 year old girl decided to poop her pants.  No big deal.  It happens.  So, I cleaned her up and borrowed some clothes to get home in.  I put the dirty clothes in a plastic bag.  Everything was fine.  So, as you know from previous posts, the Mom was the Micro Manage Mama.  (I think I wrote about her in August.  The one who always called on my off time, who would tell me what the kids can eat..blah blah.)  We got home.  I made dinner, gave the kids a bath, everyone was great.  While the Mom was on her way home, she called me(as usual) and asked how the playdate was.  I told her that X pooped her pants and it was no big deal.  From the time we hung up to the time she got home, she had called the playdate Mom to see how I handled the situation.  Are you f'ing kidding me, lady?  Did I not just tell you that everything was fine????  The Mom got home and had the BALLS to tell me that she spoke with the playdate Mom to see how it went.  F YOU!  No wonder I quit!

Parents, if you don't trust your Nanny, DON'T HAVE A NANNY.

Thursday, October 31, 2013


The Rag-a-muffin Parade is today at 3pm, starting at 13th Street on Washington.  

Be there or be a bear!


Wednesday, October 30, 2013

It's almost Halloween!

Sorry that I have been MIA!  I have been helping the kids with their costumes!

What are you and your kids going to be for Halloween??

Sunday, October 27, 2013

Confessions of a Nanny

This one Mom that I Nannied for was one of the coldest people that I've ever met.  She was physically unable to talk about certain topics and would get unbelievably psycho.  Like, if I knew of a day off way in advance, she would ignore me.  I'm talking like 10 months in advance.  I guess it was weird for me to even bring it up that far in advance considering I may quit by then.  You just never know.  But, after working with her for a few months, I realized that is who she was.  She always spoke so highly of me, but her actions didn't.  I enjoyed the kids, but I was never fully comfortable around her.  I enjoyed when she left for the day because I wouldn't have to tip toe around a topic.  I ENJOYED working with her through a notebook.  The Mom never became a "friend" despite her trying, but whenever I would communicate certain things, she would push me away.  My favorite part of this woman...she always told me that I was family.  But in my family, we don't treat people that way.  Maybe in hers.  

So here's my confession: I don't care for families that don't treat me like family.  If I need a day off, don't ignore me.  Instead, tell me that's fine and you'll make it work.  And to families that tell me that I'm part of the family, please don't tell me that.  Just treat me like it.  

There is nothing better than waking up early on a Sunday morning and realizing that you have the whole day to relax.  

Make sure you get out and play with the kids on this beautiful morning!

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Irk-Worthy Things That Parents Do

It's a known fact that kids act differently around different people.  Of course they know how to manipulate Mom and Dad or get everything they want with Grandma and Grandpa.  But what about Nanny?  Parents sometimes don't understand how different kids are.  When I tell a Parent that they kid ate lima beans with me, they almost fall over and faint.  So, what is so hard to believe? Well, for starters, kids know what they can and can't get away with around certain people.  They know that if they ask for a sip of water before bed with Mom and Dad, that will delay going to sleep.  Because every time Mom and Dad fall for it and think their kid is actually thirsty, right?  Wrong.  The kid isn't thirsty.  So here is a list of things that I find annoying about Parents(more so about the kids who do these things, but they get away with it, so I can't be annoyed with those cute little things!)

1) Putting your kid in front of the TV and then Parents complain that they watch too much TV.  - Well, what do you think?  A kid will just get up and stop watching TV?  No, Parents.  You let them watch.  They don't know that too much TV isn't good for them.  It is your responsibility to go turn it off.  Let it cause a tantrum.  

2) Saying that your kid eats too much junk food.  Again.  You are the Parent.  If your kid won't eat a solid meal, stop giving so many potato chips and cookies.  

3) Not letting your child cry.  Let the kid cry.  Especially if it's because he dropped his toy.  You are setting your child up for failure if you don't let them learn disappointment.  

4) Doing every little thing for the kids.  I once Nannied for a 4 year old girl who was unable to dress herself because her Parents dressed and undressed her everyday.  Be patient with your kids.  Learning how to dress and undress themselves is a basic neccessity in life.  A 3 year old should know how to do this.  I'd love to be that girl where everything was done for me, however, that is not reality.  Learning independence is the best thing for a child(whether or not we want them to be!)

5) I say this one a lot: Diversifying your childs palette.  If you don't want a kid who only eats chicken nuggets and mac and cheese, then stop giving it.  Do not give up on new foods.  A baby needs to try a new food 11 times before they decide whether or not they like it.  We can do the same with older kids.  There's also nothing wrong with a little bribery.  "Try this and I'll give you this."  It works.