Emailed Topic: Nannying Around Parents
I received this great topic from someone who signed the email as "Nanny in Hoboken." (I'm totally fine with not signing your given name, by the way.)
Let's talk about this. Nannying with Parents around can be explained like this: when working in corporate world, it's very uncomfortable having your boss around, right? So, Nannying with your boss around is no exception. It's kind of like, we do things one way, and the Parents do things another way, so when everyone is around, the kid becomes a doofus. Kids don't know who to ask so they can get the outcome they want, and it's a Disaster with a capital D. As I've said before, kids are different people around different adults.
My belief is that if Parents are going to be around with Nanny, they either need to completely take care of the kids or they need to be invisible. Meaning, go in your room and don't come out or go somewhere for the day. The worst thing to deal with is a crying, whining child whose Mom or Dad keep walking in and out of the room. It's like a big tease for the kids.
This topic also brings me to the Stay at Home Mom who has a Nanny or a Sitter to watch the kid(s) while Mom does house chores. No, it can't work like that. Especially on a rainy day like today. If the child doesn't understand that Mom will be around, it makes it very difficult for the Caregiver to be able to have fun with the child.
A child doesn't want the Nanny, they want the Parent. Remember that!